Houston Single Women
Most single people you will meet are fabulous, but you still need to pay attention
to your personal safety. For safe dating, follow these few tips. On your first
couple of dates, make sure a friend knows where you are going and always meet
your date at the location, don't have them pick you up at home. Use your cell
phone when you give out your number. There is nothing wrong with using your cell
number out at first; your home address can be traced with a home phone number.
Allow your date to pay for the first few dates. To insist on going Dutch or
picking up the tab can be a slap in the face. After a few dates, a natural rhythm
will develop based on financial constrains and social agendas.
Invite Him Out
After you have been on three dates and you're dying to see him again, invite
him out. Take him to the park and bring a picnic basket. Get tickets for a local
Houston music venue or sporting event that he'd like to do. Don't spend too much
money on tickets, instead spend time on coming up with something you think he
would really enjoy, men need to know that you are interested too!
Houston Single Men
Forget letting the woman make the decisions on where you are going on your
first few dates. This is your big opportunity to be the guy (make no mistake,
if this lasts she'll be making the decisions soon enough...). Know what your date
likes, but don't ever make the mistake of asking your date what they want to do,
instead give her options, "would you rather have coffee at Brazil or drinks at
Agora"? Not, "well, I was thinking we might want to go out for drinks or coffee,
what do you want to do"?
If you are interested in your date, don't allow her to pay for any of the first
few dates. If she offers, thank her, but simply insist that you would prefer to
pay and suggest that maybe later she can come up with a date or two.
This next tip may not seem fair or honest, but trust me on this one. Never
be too available. Being available every night of the week and for any phone call
or possible rendezvous means you don't have a life. And that means you are uninteresting
and a possible doormat. Be busy, be interesting and be unavailable sometimes.
Use your body langue to show your interest if you really like your date. Make
direct eye contact and hold for two heartbeats before you look away. Touch their
wrist or shoulder when you are making a point. Lean in toward them while they
are talking and by all means, don't forget your smile.
It also pays to pay attention to their body language. Are their eyes wandering
while you are talking? Are they checking out the other diners or the waiter or
waitress? Give someone the benefit of the doubt the first dates, they may simply
be nervous. But, on future dates if this is a consistent mannerism, you need to
decide if you can live with it.
Which brings up the third tip...don't create a relationship based on someone's
potential to change, base it on who they are. If they smoke and you don't like
smoking, it is not up to them to quit but up to you to decide if you can accept
it. This is the "bonus option". If you like someone enough to be with them the
way they are today, if they make a change in the future for the better, that's
a bonus. Never base a relationship on someone changing. If you do, you are saying
to them, right up front, they aren't good enough for you the way they are today.
How would that make you feel?